Is having sex before marriage bad for girls
Is having sex before marriage bad for girls?
Important tag: marriage, sex, adult dating and relationships, premarital sex
When you get married, something very magical will happen and you will end up married ever after if you were a virgin up to your marriage. Well, that’s what society used to tell girls to prevent them from becoming pregnant. Make marriage sound special and tell them bad things will happen if they have sex before marriage and most of the girls will keep their virginity and even in some societies would prefer death over sex before marriage. (Actually, girls who were about to be raped would rather kill themselves to protect their virginity.)
But in reality, billions of people in the past had sex and had normal lives even without marriage. Marriage is actually a reasonably new thing that was usually something for people with a high status. Kings would marry as the marriage would result in alliances with other families, resulting in more power for the Royals. But the normal people on the street would just have relations without the official approval of marriage.
Interestingly enough, marriage was very profitable for Christian Churches by demanding that you’d only have sex if you were married. And marriages would have to go through the Church so the Church would earn extra money as you’d had to pay to be married. Plus, the Church got more control over the lives of their followers, making them more powerful.
So, marriage has always been a method to gain power by the people involved in it. And because of the expenses, it was hard to get married and thus have sex so it was also a mild form of birth control. But societies change and so did the meaning of marriage.
Nowadays, marriage is considered to be nothing more than a contract between two people who love one another. There are still marriages for other reasons but most get married because two people want to live together as a single, economic entity. This means they could inherit from one another, share bank accounts and other stuff and basically get their personal caretaker as your partner will be considered to be your caretaker if something happens to you. And as it’s just a contract, it also tends to be broken regularly but still, a contract is a contract.
Nowadays, marriage is an option for many couples all over the world and not exclusive to straight couples anymore. This means that lesbians like me also can get married, if we want to. And if I find a nice woman who I love and who loves me and we want to spend our lives together then I can get married to her.
But this contract sets no rules anymore about sex before, during or after marriage. In the marriage vows, you can add some additional promises like never cheating on your wife but it’s not a requirement anymore. Open marriages have become an option and sex before marriage has not become a problem anymore in modern societies.
The only situation where it still matters is within religion as even today, marriage is used by religions to control the lives of followers. So if you are religious then you probably can’t have sex before you’re married. Then again, people still have to find out that you had sex before marriage. That’s not an easy thing to do.
Besides, does lesbian sex still count as sex? Say, two women are having sex with one another. Would that count? Or two men having sex together? Does it matter what kind of sex it was? Just touching? Oral, Anal? Full intercourse?
If you don’t want others to control your life then sex before marriage is just fine. Doesn’t mean you have to have sex before marriage. It just means that you can have sex before marriage if you want to…
Women who give away their best assets to men who give them nothing other than sex are most of the time the gullible and weak kind, they are not able to defend their own interests. This weakness is often displayed in various other forms which you can read and potentially guess the number of sexual partners they have had with surprising accuracy.
Sex for a woman is as much an emotional activity as it is physical. It is nature’s potent glue that can create superb bonding with the male partner. Promiscuous women, or the weak women, are often forced to gradually teach their brains to let go this powerful bonding action. Soon enough, sex is no longer a special act for them; no big deal. It’s just like going shopping for them. Sex becomes an absolute necessity and by virtue of being a woman, they will easily find it in abundance - whenever they want, as much as they want. This might sound like a fun and happy place to be in, but it’s actually more like being cooked on a slow flame and not realizing it until it’s too late.
So, having sex in a committed relationship is as good as having sex in marriage. But, then again, a strong and emotionally stable woman will not get to have more than 3–4 relationships before she ends up finding the love of her life. A weak woman will have gained 20–30 sexual partners before she will finally have to force herself to get married to the same kind of man that she had been rejecting since attaining puberty
it happen hundreds of times when I had sex with both of my now ex-wives before I married them. It was really good too! There's no way I would have married them had I not known whether or not we were sexually compatible. I kind of dislike the the comparison to test driving a car because it puts potential spouses up as property or a purchase. But ignoring that part of it, the comparison is kind of accurate. Ladies, would you buy a car that looked nice without driving it?
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